Carol Hwoschinsky
COMMENTS
This page is to remember and advance all Carol stood for and to recall the spirit that we knew, or may come to know, of her abiding passion for reconciliation. Please feel welcome to leave your review, comments, or reflections on Carol’s book, and to share any memories or experiences you may have of her and her life in the comments form below.
From Peter Hwoschinsky:
This Book has been a lifetime in the writing, and a trial by fire in many ways.
For me, my mother Carol lived with an intention to remain open, burned into her through the heat of family and childhood experience, love and behavior out of sync at times, both through her upbringing and mine. Love, while ever present for her as a child from many, required insight and growth to raise my sister and I with the clarity of love we experienced. Even when the world had other plans, or old wounds and habits took what time they needed, the content I can feel in her summery of her life came through an open exploration into the experiences that shaped her orientations and connectivity.
It is no surprise she found her way to a life dedicated to inter-personal relationship and conflict resolution through a deeper understanding of its nature and elemental construction as a means of trying to understand and thrive with intention.
Intention. This is all it really takes, a clear courageous intention turned towards a life of engagement with others. Every moment, another opportunity to connect, to heal, to try. She tried to do no harm knowing that doing no harm is an impossible task for any adult on this earth at this age of human evolution. It took a lifetime to grow this intention into practice, and from where I sit, she did it well, primarily because she did not stop trying, or believing what is possible between people in pain expressed through conflict.
We did this together as best we could, through generational differences, the growing pains of youth, (mine), and then together professionally within a larger arena of world challenges. However, following her stroke in 2020, I found myself thrown back into a life together as her primary care giver. The stroke impacted balance and vision, and thank god not her capacity to think or speak. This book while still possible, did not feel likely that first year.
All our lives, and this book, took a major hit on that day, and we struggled to see my father though his last months with Alzheimer's while working tirelessly on her recovery. And recover she did, but of course, not without many changes and challenges that would never leave her un-impacted again.
This book is part memoir, part science, part spirit, and all about discovery, made very accessible, even absorbable, in ways that point to how we live and the opportunities she discovered while holding the intentions I have been witness to.
It’s the accessible part that the memoir helps ground for me, and while I may be too close to it all for the view required, the weight of her topic is grounded in a life we can feel and understand through the one only she can articulate.
Spirit meets science meets life as we know it really, how energy flows and collides to create synergy for something new, the building blocks of this physical form we’re in regardless of what else you may have come to believe about this physical dimension and everyones part in it. Pretty heady stuff, but this helps me feel it more easily, to remember the speed of wisdom as somebody said to me once.
So I think this book has a key somehow, through the memoir passages of her story that ground and make accessible the intensity and challenge of how to bring these concepts into a practical accessible form we might recognize and work with.
Anyone think this might be useful?
Well, here’s a read for you...
This heartfelt memoir uses the author's life and experiences to unveil effective methods for understanding others and navigating our differences. After a lifetime of self-exploration, Carol Hwoschinsky and her colleagues develop a method for helping people see their adversaries with empathy—an approach that leads to healing and forgiveness for victims of war, the Holocaust, and even everyday family disagreements.
This quote late in the book captures the book's essence for me: "Through coming to know our personal reactive patterns and their origins, we can decode our emotional responses and mitigate the bind of the autonomic response. This is emotional intelligence."
I was fortunate to get to know the author over the past few years. Carol's genuine spirt runs free throughout this entire book. There is an added value for me that I was able to see this lady living exactly what she writes about. I dearly miss her companionship and I am simultaneously grateful for this lasting gift she has left to the needing world!
This Book has been a lifetime in the writing, and a trial by fire in many ways.
For me, my mother Carol lived with an intention to remain open, burned into her through the heat of family and childhood experience, love and behavior out of sync at times, both through her upbringing and mine. Love, while ever present for her as a child from many, required insight and growth to raise my sister and I with the clarity of love we experienced. Even when the world had other plans, or old wounds and habits took what time they needed, the content I can feel in her summery of her life came through an open exploration into the experiences that shaped her orientations and connectivity.
It is no surprise she found her way to a life dedicated to inter-personal relationship and conflict resolution through a deeper understanding of its nature and elemental construction as a means of trying to understand and thrive with intention.
Intention. This is all it really takes, a clear courageous intention turned towards a life of engagement with others. Every moment, another opportunity to connect, to heal, to try. She tried to do no harm knowing that doing no harm is an impossible task for any adult on this earth at this age of human evolution. It took a lifetime to grow this intention into practice, and from where I sit, she did it well, primarily because she did not stop trying, or believing what is possible between people in pain expressed through conflict.
We did this together as best we could, through generational differences, the growing pains of youth, (mine), and then together professionally within a larger arena of world challenges. However, following her stroke in 2020, I found myself thrown back into a life together as her primary care giver. The stroke impacted balance and vision, and thank god not her capacity to think or speak. This book while still possible, did not feel likely that first year.
All our lives, and this book, took a major hit on that day, and we struggled to see my father though his last months with Alzheimer's while working tirelessly on her recovery. And recover she did, but of course, not without many changes and challenges that would never leave her un-impacted again.
This book is part memoir, part science, part spirit, and all about discovery, made very accessible, even absorbable, in ways that point to how we live and the opportunities she discovered while holding the intensions I have been witness to.
It’s the accessible part that the memoir helps ground for me, and while I may be too close to it all for the view required, the weight of her topic is grounded in a life we can feel and understand through the one only she can articulate.
Spirit meets science meets life as we know it really, how energy flows and collides to create synergy for something new, the building blocks of this physical form we’re in regardless of what else you may have come to believe about this physical dimension and everyones part in it. Pretty heady stuff, but this helps me feel it more easily, to remember the speed of wisdom as somebody said to me once.
So I think this book has a key somehow, through the memoir passages of her story that ground and make accessible the intensity and challenge of how to bring these concepts into a practical accessible form we might recognize and work with.
Anyone think this might be useful?
Well, here’s a read for you...